7.12.2006
I Feel Bad
While it was certainly never my intention to make ANY woman--whether she has one child or twenty children feel "less than," I fear that I may have hurt a dear friend of mine, and I want to say how very sorry I am. My last post was really just about trying to express how I handle the struggle that sometimes comes with trying to raise a large family off of one income. (This has been fresh on my mind this week as we've lost a freezer full of meat and our refrigerator went out about two weeks later...) I was NOT trying to say that couples who choose to have only one or two children are selfish or are out of the will of God.
God is SOVEREIGN. He loves you, my dear friend; and he has a special plan for your family of four (Or whatever your particular circumstance may be.) Please never forget that.
I love you,
Michelle
2 Comments:
That you would be sensitive to that - and even apologize! - you are such a lovely being, truly. Sometimes us ladies with only one child (and lucky to get even just one!) are made to feel like we aren't getting the full motherhood experience and are some how less, that we just don't get it, that it's just so easy with just one. I wasn't offended by your post, but I appreciate your sensitivity to the issue.
I appreciate that you would say that. I know that in submission to my husband, and God's grace for me to accept that, we thought we might only have one child. Now we do have two, 5 1/2 years apart, and that will probably be it. It has worked for us very well. I might have done as many other friends did and tried to get pregnant when my first was one and a half or two, but now knowing my personality and that of my husband, it wouldn't have worked for us. God was sovereign and we love our family.
I wasn't really offended, because I know that we often have to defend our choices to others--if we have more children than what is "normal," or if we have less, or none. But I did think that it was atypical of your viewpoint, so I'm glad that you clarified, for those who might have misunderstood. I'm also glad that I managed to keep quiet and not try to defend my choices on the first post : )
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